Heartbreak Recovery
If you're avoidantly attached, heartbreak looks different from the outside. You might seem fine. You throw yourself into work, hit the gym harder, tell yourself you're better off alone. But underneath the competence, something is shut down. The grief is there — your body just won't let you access it. Months later, it surfaces as unexplained sadness, difficulty connecting, or a vague numbness that colors everything.
Avoidant men face a paradox: the defense mechanism that protects them from heartbreak pain also prevents them from healing. Dismissive avoidant patterns suppress the grief response so effectively that many avoidant men genuinely believe they're 'over it' within weeks. The grief doesn't disappear — it goes underground into the body, emerging as tension, emotional flatness, or an inability to be present in future relationships. The challenge is cracking open the armor safely.
For avoidant men, somatic work is about gently reopening the channels that got shut down. We start slow — avoidant nervous systems resist vulnerability, so we don't force emotional breakthroughs. Instead, we use body awareness exercises to help you notice where grief might be stored: the tension in the upper back, the tightness in the throat, the heaviness in the chest that you've been calling 'normal.' Breathwork creates small openings. Over time, the body learns it's safe to feel again.
Men who 'bounce back' too quickly after breakups. Men who feel numb or disconnected. Men who intellectualize their feelings instead of feeling them. Men who notice a pattern of emotional unavailability in their relationships.
The free 7-Day Heartbreak Reset gives you daily somatic practices — breathwork, nervous system regulation, and body-based tools — to begin processing the grief right now.